Confessions of a Guilty Mom: PTA Edition
I've never been to a PTA meeting.
I want to go to a PTA meeting.
But I've never been to a PTA meeting, and sometimes this makes me feel like a terrible mom.
We want to do it all. We want to do it right. We also want everyone to go away so we can take a nap. The burden of that tension is heavy.
Am I terrible? Am I doing enough? Are my kids gonna hate me when they remember that I was never Room Mom? (And what exactly is Room Mom? I feel like I should be one, but I also feel like it's unnecessary torture.)
Here's the thing: if you are a Room Mom, if you go to PTA meetings, if you and the school receptionist are on a first-name basis, I love that. I love you. You are a wonderful mom.
And if you will never be a Room Mom, if you don't even know if your kid's school has a PTA, and if the only reason you'd talk to the receptionist is if your kid threw up in the cafeteria and you need to pick him up now, I love that. I love you. You are a wonderful mom.
This week's episode of the podcast is The Lazy Genius Survives a Class Party, and recording it was therapy. I'm lazy about being involved in my kids' schools but not in their lives. I spend time with them doing other things. I support the school other ways. I can embrace that about myself and not feel guilty for it.
You don't have to feel guilty either.
It isn't about being a lazy mom; it's about prioritizing where and how you are a mom. If you want to cook all of your family's meals from scratch and spend a lot of time reading to and with your kids, you probably won't be able to also keep a constantly clean house and be PTA president. We can only do it all when we choose what our all is, when we decide what matters to us and move into it with enthusiasm and grace.
And zero guilt. Don't waste time on that.