How a Photo of Benedict Cumberbatch Made Me a Better Mom
People often see us as what we do rather than who we are. I'm a lawyer, she's a runner, you're a mom. And sometimes people lock us into a specific part of who we are. She's so sweet and quiet. I'm responsible. You're the one who keeps things going at parties.
You might be what people think you are, but you're also much more.
Because I'm a mom, I sometimes believe that's all I have to offer the world. There's no room for anything else because all of my energy should be going into my kids. On a smaller scale, the photo on my phone's lock screen should be of my kids, too, right? That's what any good mom would do.
But here's the reality. Yes, I love my kids, but I also love famous people. Not more, but like, A LOT. It's been that way since I was little, and it hasn't stopped in over 30 years. That used to embarrass me, but I'm done apologizing for it.
Is there something you love that you apologize for loving? It's time to quit that.
It's a simple thing, but I use the photo on my lock screen to remind me that I'm more than just a mom. It's my honor to be the mother of my kids, but it's also an honor to be a flesh and blood human who sees the world in a unique way. And as silly as it might sound, a photo of Benedict Cumberbatch and Michael Fassbender dancing at a party quickly reminds me of what I love and that I can be more than one thing, no matter how others might see me. Intentionally remembering that truth is a game-changer.
What about you?
Do you ever feel swallowed up by the way others categorize you? Maybe people always say how quiet you are, but you actually have a lot to say. Still, you're afraid that if you actually start speaking your mind or even speaking at all that everyone will notice and make a big deal out of it.
Or maybe you're a homeschooling mom with a crapload of responsibility who finds yourself daydreaming about exotic locations and quickly feels badly about that, even though you've had an interest in maps and traveling and culture since you were young.
Friends, you are more than one thing, and it's time to celebrate it.
Perhaps you need a reminder on a regular basis - mom or not - that you are more than what people think you are, that it's time to quit apologizing for what you love, and that you've been made with great purpose. It's part of your wiring and shouldn't be left for a rainy Saturday afternoon when everyone's busy doing something else.
Sometimes I need to remember that I'm more than just a mom in order to be a better one.
You have a thing. Can you make it a phone photo? You might be surprised what it does to you.