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The Three Signs You've Taken Habit Tracking Too Far

The Three Signs You've Taken Habit Tracking Too Far

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I'm pretty sure if our great-grandfathers knew that we fill in squares to record how much water we drink every day, they'd burn our Bullet Journals in a fire they started themselves and then make us plow five fields before the sun came up. 

We're a slightly ridiculous generation.

Still, we're a tracking culture, and sometimes it's great! Those little squares have helped me develop a love for green smoothies, buy fewer clothes I'll never wear, and improve my old lady joints with yoga. It's not bad.

But it can be. 

The Three Signs You've Taken Habit Tracking Too Far

1. You spend more time on the tracking than you do on The Thing.

Some goals are stupid, and they're just an excuse to ignore what's really happening in our souls. A sure sign we're running from something rather than to it is how we spend our time. If your ruler and colored pens get more mileage than your yoga mat, sketch pad, garden plot, or mindset, perhaps the goal isn't really what you're after. 

You're after the appearance of control. You're trying to manage the perception others have of you, and all of those little colored boxes are a social BatSignal - I have it all together!

None of us do, y'all. Let it go.

2. Failed tracking leads to starting over.

I'm embarrassed at how much money I've spent on notebooks that are mostly empty. The first page has a goal written in mediocre calligraphy, and the following pages are filled with charts, graphs, and empty spaces to make myself feel like a better person. See #1.

But when those squares stay empty and the momentum never begins, I blame the journal. I blame the system. I start over. 

If what I'm tracking was actually important to who I am as a person, I'd keep going. I'd learn from why it's not working. I wouldn't care that my squares are empty since the squares aren't the point. 

If you find yourself making another chart rather than taking another look inward, pay attention.

3. You're your own mean girl.

Self-talk is so real, y'all. If those squares cause you to roll your eyes, discount your motivation, and generally treat yourself in a way you'd never treat a friend, STEP AWAY FROM THE JOURNAL AND SEE A THERAPIST. Or just go for a walk and talk to someone who loves you. Either way, be kind to yourself and stop with the squares.

We all get wonky inside. You've probably mean-girled yourself today! But the sooner we notice it's happening, the sooner we can rest in truth. 

You matter... filled squares or not.

I do love the Bullet Journal. I've written a super comprehensive guide to getting started and dedicated an entire podcast episode to how a Lazy Genius uses one. This isn't a moratorium on the concept in general; just put your soul above your success. 

If you're learning to be a Lazy Genius about habits and journals and tracking, share a question, struggle, or pep talk in the comments. It's lovely to learn from each other. 

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