Put Down Your List of Resolutions, and Read This First
It's almost the new year. How many stupid goals have you set so far?
Most words you read over the next few weeks are meant to throw lighter fluid on an already raging Goal-Setting Fire. ORGANIZE, EXERCISE, DIET, HYDRATE... burn, baby, burn.
As you're bombarded with all of the tips and quick fixes and 21 Ways to Shed Holiday Pounds Without Moving a Muscle, don't get duped. Here's the real truth.
There are countless methods for losing weight or organizing your life or doing The Thing you think will make your life better. There are far fewer options when it comes to doing the real personal work that drives those desires in the first place.
When I feel the desire to lose weight, the deeper struggle is thinking I need to be thin in order to be accepted. When I get the urge to purge and organize like a crazy person, I'm really afraid that a clean house is the only way to hide my inner messiness from the people who walk in my door. Stupid goals are simply a distraction from looking at what's going on within my soul.
It's a lot easier to spend hours researching healthy breakfasts to jumpstart my metabolism instead of spending those same hours admitting to my husband that the reason I've been so snappy with him is because I assume he sees me the way I see me - as not enough. The former requires motivation and Google; the latter makes me vulnerable to gross parts of myself. But which one do you think has greater impact?
Before you fill out your charts and find your accountability partners, make sure you're not setting goals to distract you from something deeper.
P.S. There's nothing wrong with creating rhythms and habits in our lives that lead to joy and rest. This month, we'll talk about new ways to look at those so you can come more alive in who you already are rather than drive yourself crazy trying to be a carbon copy of what you think you should be. Join me?